Words create worlds.
Good morning Friday reader,
How was your week?
Words create worlds.
This morning, I have been pottering around at home (it is 7.17am) doing the washing, vacuuming, getting the boys off to work. Usually when I am about to write an email to you, I know the words I want to write to you, or maybe not all of them; but I have an idea. Today – no idea.
I sat down at my desk -the desk that I don’t get to sit at on a regular basis anymore. My desk is covered in what to me feels like love, guidance, magic. I have tarot cards, oracle cards, notes on my computer, candles, old notebooks filled with my words, crystals, a camera, artwork lining the left wall, and at my back book shelves I have thoughtfully curated with books of women, written by women, women photographers, writers, poets, leaders that I want at my back. It is no surprise to me that when I do get a chance to spend time here, the perfect message, words, creativity comes to me.
As soon as I sat down the words:
“Words create worlds” - came to me.
I have not been sleeping well there is too much chatter in my head about so many things, too many things. These words are creating my world.
I realized at 2.12am that I have been talking too much this week, and creating worlds with my words that are not me, what I want, or in alignment with my values. These words - the chatter in my brain, the conversations, and the words I have been using are taking me further and further away from my goals, and my own centre. I am allowing people to dictate and manipulate and instead of coming back to my own values and centre I am getting caught up in limiting beliefs and not drawing on my own skills, knowledge and wisdom. I am using words in defense, and scarcity.
I met Scott at the gate last night when he got home at 7.00pm, he had parked the work truck on the nature strip, as we walked up to the house, he asked how my day was.
My first instinct and need was to spew out everything I was feeling, every single frustrating, limiting and unprofessional conversation I had experienced in my work day.
Instead, I said.
“I learnt so much today”.
“Did you do a course”?
“No, life experience is a much better teacher than a course”
“Oh yeah, what did you learn?”
“How to be a leader – actually, I have learnt about the leader I don’t want to be. I have asked that many bloody questions, that I have have gone to a whole new level of using words to get to clarity – I am craving deep clarity. I learnt in a meeting today that my creative mind is like the touch screen boards you see on movies. I can see the whole picture, and my mind is moving things around to get to the best solution – it felt so great to be on a roll with multiple suggestions flowing through me – the person I was helping was furiously writing in his notebook my suggestions and muttering this is perfect, this will work, the team will love this. For everything to be shot down by - no that won’t be approved. I stopped talking, I thought fuck it, why bother!
I have been listening to Brene Brown’s audio book (I love audible because I love accents) the book is “Daring to Lead”.
She reads in one chapter about not armoring up. Not walking into work, a room, a conversation like a gladiator. Don’t go in with your chain mail, shield, swords, and an armored heart. Stay soft, open, creative, stay in your center, and work only with your own values.
This week I have been reminded again that my words not only spoken but, in my head, and heart are creating my world. I can armor up and think fuck it, have chatter, limiting beliefs, negative set mindset, and continually run the stories and words through my head. Or I can stay soft, see the big picture, know what my goals are, hone my skills and knowledge, learn, learn, learn, come back to my center, my values, make myself proud with the words I use, work I create and relationships I build.
This will be done by recognizing the words running in my head and creating my world.
Life, art, business, work are how we create it.
Have a beautiful day
Love
Melinda
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