Comparison
I do not compare, and this has opened to me curiosity, connection, creativity, abundance, and using my own voice.
I used to compare a lot. And it felt debilitating, fearful and it allowed me to make an incredible amount of excuses as to why I wasn’t creating everything I want.
I had an experience that changed the way I look at myself and my life and a cellular understanding that I am my own woman, I am unique, and I can trust myself.
I notice what others are doing; but I do not berate myself for not being at the same stage as them, for not having the same income, the same style of photography.
If a feeling of envy does poke at me, I take notice of that and ask myself why?
What is the interest in how much she is making? Am I noticing because that amount is in my awareness? Is this a message to show me I am off my path and to get back on it to move towards my goals?
Style of photography - why did it catch my attention so strongly – what is the story being told in the photos, what are the emotions in the elements in the photo that made my heart stop? What in my photography makes my heart stop?
I notice, acknowledge, and ask myself questions about what I want and why?
We do not know another woman’s full story – most of the time they don’t know their full story.
The sharing on social media, newsletters, emails, the marketing of business, is one facet of the woman. There is depths and heights every single woman has been to that are layers in her story adding to the way she takes photos; the way she creates her life and her business. These are intangible elements that cannot be copied. We do not know the true heart of the woman by looking at her profile, website or reading how she composes her newsletter, we are not with her in the dark before the dawn, we are not with her in private celebration.
Every woman is connected as women, while also being a rare one-off important woman with her own depth and height stories, own dreams and goals, a heart that is hers alone and a voice that is distinctive and needs to be heard.
To feel connected is to know ourselves, to know our story and to concentrate on the life we love and are creating, to devote to taking care of ourselves to start with. Creating relationships and a community around us when we are not in comparison mode is where a new level of self is remembered, we are open to shared wisdom, knowledge, and stories, we are sharing our stories and getting to know ourselves and others in a way that is connected and a place that has a ripple effect of love and growth.
Have a beautiful day
Love
Melinda
I offer 1:1 clarity mentoring conversations for women photographers - the space is yours, I am there to hold up the other end of the conversation and reflect back to you what you bring to the hour. The questions I ask are not meant for me they are all you. Our time together is focussed on you getting to know yourself , your art, your business and how you are creating it. The conversations are step by step, and most likely the answers and clarity you seek will not come during the one hour - they usually reach you in a state of no expectation, in the middle of the night or when you are vacuuming. The foundations of whatever you are creating, has to be your values, standards and boundaries, it has to be you knowing yourself. Showing up, doing the work and letting magic happen. These conversations are about connection to self and connection in conversation.
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